Suck It Up Buttercup

The minute you complain is the minute you absolve yourself of all responsibility – making it easy for you to blame someone else for your current situation.

Listen, things happen. Completely out of your control. Sometimes really bad things.

I get it.

My husband and I couldn't live in our home for 7 months – because a commercial contractor laid sewer pipelines in our neighborhood … backward. Which means that raw sewage came up through the toilet and bathtub and kitchen sink. In the middle of the night. So when we awoke we were greeted with a stench that was incredibly horrible and squishy carpet. We were able to salvage the appliances and furniture and put those in storage. But the drywall had sucked up every bit of wet ick, as had the insulation. Oh, and the contractor was in our house within an hour, agreeing that it was unlivable.

I had a retirement fund and that's what helped to pay for the rebuild of our home. We had to strip the house down to studs and rebuild, because within days the health department deemed it a hazard and we couldn't live in it.

We rented a bedroom from my mother (she lived in a 2 bedroom condo), and me & him and the dog lived there for 7 months. I was going to school full time, working full time and he was trying to deal with the legal issues that arose. Because the contractor decided that he wasn't really responsible and wasn't going to pay.

We still had a mortgage to pay, in addition to the rent to mom (we insisted, she didn't want to take our money).

There's more, but I think you get the gist of it. Life sucked. But we got through it. How? We focused on what needed to be done.

And when it was over, and two years later we settled with the contractor's insurance company for 25% of the damages done to our home, we vowed to keep looking forward and not let this get us down.

That's one of many stories I can tell about how Life has a way of pulling the rug out from under you.

What I've learned is that complaining accomplishes nothing except …

Showing everyone else how powerless you are.


I don't share those stories often because I prefer to focus on today, on what I can do to make things better around me. On what I can do to make our life more Free.

One of those things is blogging. I enjoy sharing how I do things, how I tackle daily living, how I run my business. And, it's allowed me an opportunity to meet terrific people, some of whom are now on my team and others who just like what I write and want to connect with me.

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0 thoughts on “Suck It Up Buttercup

  1. Just love the way you think Charlene! Focusing on what you want, not what you don’t want and doing what needs to get done to make it happen. Way to go! Great story of how you overcame against the odds and kept going to be where you want to be. Very inspiring! 🙂

  2. That is horrible!! Yes, I have also learned that we have to just deal with whatever the issue is and work hard to just move forward. You can never move forward, if your always looking back.

  3. Oh my goodness – I can’t even imagine waking up to the destruction that you did. Amazingly enough, you can see how helpful blogging is to share your stories. Somebody out there needs to hear how you pulled yourself out of a ‘crappy’ situation. Good job! Netty and Sam Estes

  4. Wow! I was once a plumber and as I was reading that story I could relate to some things you mentioned. I’m sorry, I guess I never really looked at it from a customer prospective maybe because I was the one fixing the pipes and water problems all day. The great thing I liked about this story is that you did what you had to do to keep moving on with your life. And as a result you got past the road block and now you are influencing others and showing them that it is possible to get through the rough times in life. Thanks for the story.

  5. Wow! I can relate to this story. I was on the other side of things as a plumber fixing others pipes and other plumbing problems. I was never the disaster clean up guy though. I guess I never really looked at the costumers side of things and the things they had to deal with. The thing I like about this story is that you were able to get over that barrier in your life and now because of that story you are able to show others that it is possible to get through the tough times in life and be stronger from it. Great story, Thanks.

  6. You Got It Right, if more people took responsibility than place blame life would be far simpler. I understand your issue we lost a home due to contractor screw up that cost me 850K and they got away with it because I filed the paperwork 111 days outside the statute of limitations.

    You got it right, suck it up and make better decisions today than you did tomorrow, you are now stronger for it.

    Great post, Thank you

    1. Robert – thanks buddy! Sucks, but you get through it and at least we have a story to tell … right? LOL Thanks for stopping by.

  7. This is 100% accurate, the moment that complaining begins you play the role of the victim. Life does happen, and it’s how we perceive things and react to them that matters most. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Hank, so glad to hear you agree – I have problems with people playing the victim when they have no reason to. Real victims are out there and I’m not one of them 🙂

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